I used to think that my life was harder than most moms because my daughter couldn’t talk.
And because my brain likes to be right, it was always looking for, and finding evidence for this. It made me feel so miserable!
Then one day I started looking for evidence that I might be wrong, and questioning my thoughts:
What if I hit the jackpot with this girl?
What if my life was actually more amazing because of her speech disorder?
What if it’s ok if she never learns to speak clearly enough to understand?
I wonder what would be different if I just decided that this could be the case AND I could still have an amazing life?
Our brains in default mode want to think that worry, disappointment and doubt is useful. Like it’s going to somehow protect us from harm. But it doesn’t. In fact, it only keeps us stuck.
If you find yourself trapped in these unhelpful thought patterns when you think about your life, first of all...nothing is wrong with you, and secondly, I’m not here to tell you that you shouldn’t think that way.
I just want to ask you this:
Is there an upside?
Does it change anything? Does it somehow make up for the past?
If not, then try focusing on creating a feeling and a future that you want instead.
You get to believe whatever you want to believe. And that is very good news. ❤️